September, 2010 ezine
Vol. II, Issue 9
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Personal Note From Joy
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Hi there,
We celebrated the Labor Day Holiday weekend in the US, it seems to be the official start of the fall season. I enjoyed taking my kayak out on the lake and noticed the colors already starting to change. I’m excited to move into another brand new season, ripe with opportunities as the momentum usually swings into high gear this time of year.
As you step up YOUR life in this new season be sure to consider coaching now more than ever, as a way to eliminate 2-3 steps on your staircase to success.
In September’s Featured News you’ll find an article I wrote for a column in a Seattle Lifestyle Magazine about contribution. Just recently, a client of mine has finalized a life-long dream of his — creating a foundation for youth in his area with the intent to help them attend post secondary education and obtain either a two or four year college degree. In addition, he’s running a half marathon [a big stretch and another dream of his] as another avenue to raise funds. How about you? Start moving forward in your game of life. Making a contribution is truly one of the most fulfilling ways to live your life, which is why I offer a Leave Your Legacy System as a proven system and technology in coaching clients to live outstanding, fulfilled lives.
There’s also a Q&A Column this month featuring John in California. He notices that his response to situations has a negative spin and he’d like to turn that around. (Be sure to submit your questions for future blogs!)
Have an amazing month!
Speed To YOUR Advancement,
Joy Pecchia
Peak Performance Coach: Guys Only
P.S. Check out my website www.behindboardroomdoors.com. I’ve created systems and technologies about the shortcut to YOUR success, educating you on ways to eliminate two to three steps when it comes to Wealth and Success building.
Contact me today to learn more at joy@behindboardroomdoors.com.
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Considerations in Giving
According to the website of Volunteering in America, Seattle ranks 4th in volunteering in the large city category. The data states the following:
There are 943,600 volunteers in the Seattle area.- 34.9 percent of residents volunteer—ranking Seattle behind Minneapolis-St. Paul, Portland and Salt Lake City.
- $2.5 billion worth of service is being contributed by volunteers.
- The volunteer retention rate in Seattle is 73.9 percent compared to the national rate of 65 percent.
(In fact, despite the current economic downturn the number of volunteers increased nationally by 1.6 million from 2008 to 2009.)
Two Different Approaches…
Consider these two Seattle-related giving-back situations:
- Along with Warren Buffet, Seattle native, Bill Gates, initiated The Giving Pledge. This is a commitment from fellow billionaires to donate most of their wealth to philanthropic causes of their choice.
- One Seattle-based non-profit, See Your Impact, features specific needs and shows donors the impact of their micro-donation.
Two Great Results!
While the billionaires pledge their enormous wealth to worthwhile causes, See Your Impact’s website posts small targeted funding requests to help reduce poverty world-wide.
For example, their website asks potential patrons to give $15 for a back-to school kit for a kindergarten aged Columbian child. The kit contains a new backpack, notebooks, paper, pencils, watercolors, brushes, crayons and a toothbrush.
One of the backbone concepts of See Your Impact is that people want to see where their gift goes. They want to know the impact it has. So, soon after the money is disbursed to a See Your Impact recipient, the donor receives a photo or video of the recipient.
Who Gives?
There are many theories as to why Seattle gives back. But it all comes back to why anyone gives. As a local Seattle business woman, Alice Cunningham, stated when profiled in Seattle Woman:
“You get to a certain age when you’re no longer a guest, but a host on the planet.”
So, it’s no surprise that because of their sheer numbers and where they are at on the life continuum that baby boomers lead the way in volunteering and giving. But the Millennials (those born after 1982) are no shirkers either. In fact, 10.8 Millennials dedicated 1.1 billion hours worth of service across the country in 2009.
It’s Not Easy
As rewarding as it is, and as easy as it may seem to do, giving, like any noble task takes work. Five considerations when deciding to donate either money or time include:
- Whether it is animals, poverty, illness or whatever, discover an issue you care about.
- Research your interests and charities on the internet. Educate yourself about the group and the way it goes about achieving its goals.
- Act out of boldness about supporting your causes. Many more people rue missed opportunities than regret having given.
- Make sure you are comfortable financially about giving. Earmark the money in your budget and do not overextend yourself.
- Shout about your cause from the rooftops! Not to draw attention to yourself but to encourage other people to also give (maybe even to your charity!).
We are all both guests and hosts during our brief sniff of life on this planet. Let graciousness reign over the way we accept and the way we give back.
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Q & A Question
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I’ll be taking questions from you each month that will appear in future ezines. Please submit a comment with your question and look for my responses in a future ezine blogs.
Q: Hey Joy, I’ve noticed that when I hear the same news as my wife, many times I’ll have a negative reaction to the same news that she responds to positively. I’d like to know why I do this and how I can change it. Thanks,
–John, California
A: Hi John,
You might have heard the expression ‘glass half full’ or ‘mismatcher’ or ‘optimistic’ as a way to describe how people respond to what they experience.
Many of my clients get caught up in the ‘why’ when it’s a negative response. Asking ‘why do I do that’ or ‘why can’t I react positively’ is simply asking your brain to give you all the reasons why your negative thoughts are true. Your brain answers any question you ask it, so it will answer a negative question with a negative response. And then people make up a story, something like ‘see, I can’t change’ or ‘it’s just who I am’, or [fill in the blank]. A negative question just builds roots and reinforces your negative behavior.
So let’s look at a few ways on how you can change it:
- Ask a positive question like ‘what can I learn from this’ or ‘what’s great about responding differently right now’ or [fill in the blank].
- Focus on responding positively. For example, now that you are aware of the situation, you can make a different choice. Before you might have been responding negatively automatically…there was an outside ‘trigger’ and you automatically did the ‘negative thing’. Now that you’re aware, you must consciously make a different choice. Decide how you can choose to respond instead, write it down, and that will be a resource for you now and in the future.
- Ask your wife for support. People need others in their environment to support their new beliefs, rules and behaviors. Let your wife know how you’d like her to specifically support you when this negativity shows up in the future.
Changing behaviors happens very effectively through a strong coaching process. I work at a deep, inner level with clients so their outside behaviors change. My proven systems and technologies get results.
John, start with these steps and let me know how you’re doing.
See you next month!
Joy
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